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Wednesday, March 7, 2018

BEING AEKS...


Not being valued! What brings us to this week's rant is definitely a personal experience of mine. Laughing, having fun, going out, but saying what you think? OH, HELL NO!

The more time I spend with certain people, the more I see this pattern repeat itself, and I don't think I am the only one to notice. The ones that speak the truth out, stand their ground and defend their opinions... But apparently don't get listened to, yet still every word is recorded. The ones not really "fitting in"...or whatever it is someone might call it. They actually often end up lost in the net of so called fake friends nowadays...

When going out, instead of having fun, you're having to listen to dramatic moments, crop them out of pictures, because they do not want to start gossips, rumors, or god forbid that someone finds out they went out with you and your friends. But, one question will always remain, why are you hiding instead of enjoying your time? See, that was what started bothering me, those controlling moments of so called confident individuals, they were sitting there hiding, judging and commenting as soon as someone would leave the table. Do I really have to engage in that? Definitely not. Am I going to hide because of that? Not even in my wildest dreams would I consider doing that...

For me it was hard to understand, something I always say will never be really familiar to me, because I always get in trouble for speaking out, criticizing and being opinionated (How many of us are these things anyways today?), although they do the same, just in an unfriendly manner. That actually brought me to today's rant, a rant about how you could (if you're like me) easily get lost in all these diversions, fake shinny moments and things that attract your attention just enough for you to actually start speaking your truth.

A truth that gets used to hurt you or even better twisted into something not pure anymore. I do believe in respecting your privacy, and the more I listen to others, the more I noticed they do the same (I was just a bit late in on the trend). It is simple moments, gestures, and abrupt reactions to whenever you would say something, that in the end you would just be left feeling bad. So I decided to test it: How would I feel if I left them out?

Amazing...

So that is why I am writing this today, because although times are tough, you might be far away from your family or having other issues, you don't have to darken your mood even more with those friendly enemy types of people. You don't need to understand them, tolerate them, you just need to be able to let them go. In a book (The life-changing magic of not giving a fuck), I learned that not even noticing is one key advantage, a skill that is acquired through time and practice, that gives you that edge, in the end, it is like this, you will have your moments, happiness and new projects, while they will just be out of topics...


See for yourself:
The life-changing magic of not giving a fuck




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